The Relational Energy Diagnostic

where are you leaking your high-value energy in love?

Before You Step In:

Answer each scenario from your current truth, not who you wish to be. Keep track of the letter (A, B, C, or D) you choose most often—your dominant frequency will unlock your acute diagnostic profile on the final screen.

Question 1: The Inconsistency Trigger

He takes 8 hours to reply after a great date, or your long-term partner suddenly gets distant and quiet. What does your nervous system do first?

  • [A] Action Mode: I step in to fix the vibe. I send a clear text or arrange a plan to get us back on track.

  • [B] Analysis Mode: I replay every detail of our last interaction in my head, analyzing what went wrong.

  • [C] Adapt Mode: I keep it super "cool and easy," pretending I didn't notice, while feeling anxious inside.

  • [D] Anchor Mode: I stay unbothered, lean back, and let his energy reveal his true alignment without intervening.

Question 2:  The Boundary Test

Someone you’re seeing (or married to) crosses a boundary for the second time. What is your automatic reaction?

  • [A] I deliver a long, detailed explanation breaking down my feelings so there’s zero "misunderstanding."

  • [B] I shut down emotionally, build a silent wall, and start quietly resenting him.

  • [C] I minimize my discomfort and let it slide to avoid conflict or sounding "high maintenance."

  • [D] I state my boundary clearly once in a calm, low-frequency tone—and adjust his access to me accordingly.

Question 3:  The First Date/Dinner Dynamic

When you’re out on a date or having a deep conversation with your partner, what is your internal focus?

  • [A] Managing the energy—making sure he’s entertained, comfortable, and that the conversation flows smoothly.

  • [B] Scanning for red flags, micro-expressions, and hidden motives to protect myself.

  • [C] Wondering what he thinks of me and trying to present the most attractive, polished version of myself.

  • [D] Relaxing into my body and evaluating whether his presence actually feels safe, grounding, and expansive to me.

Question 4:  The Somatic Body Check

When tension or uncertainty enters your love life, where do you feel it in your physical body?

  • [A] A restless surge of adrenaline in my chest and hands that forces me to do something immediately.

  • [B] A tight knot in my stomach and a racing brain that keeps me awake at night overthinking.

  • [C] A heavy sinking feeling in my chest and a urge to please or appease to keep the peace.

  • [D] A grounded, temporary sensation that I can breathe through without letting it dictate my actions.

Question 5: The Standard & Access Control

How do you view your own availability, attention, and emotional energy?

  • [A] Unlimited—if someone needs fixing, healing, or organizing, I give 110%.

  • [B] Conditional—I want to be open, but I keep my guard high until someone proves 100% safety.

  • [C] Negotiable—I tend to over-give in hopes that they will eventually match my effort.

  • [D] Sacred—My energy is a high-value privilege that is earned through consistent, safe action.

Done! Count up your total A’s, B’s, C’s, and D’s now. Click on the associated link below, regarding your most popular letter selected.

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mostly "a" responses

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mostly "b" responses

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mostly "c" responses

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mostly "d" responses

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